A Collection of Resources that offer an Affirming Christian Perspective on Homosexuality

 The collection is organized into the following sections:
         What's Happening on Various Christian College Campuses
     THE BIBLE & HOMOSEXUALITY by Matthew Vines -- Click box at right »
     LOVE MAKES A FAMILY by Zach Wahls
     RESOURCE WEBSITES -- Faith-Based
     RESOURCE WEBSITES -- Non-Faith-Based
     CULTURE WARS: The Chick-Fil-A Controversy


I am an evangelical Christian, serious about my faith and committed to following Jesus. I grew up in a conservative family in the Midwest, and I taught for over a decade at a Midwest Christian college, which is known for being rather conservative while still making room for differing viewpoints on matters of faith (such as creation, evolution, and intelligent design or egalitarianism and complementarianism). It was during my student years at a very similar conservative Christian college that I discovered there are various valid viewpoints among Christians (on politics or feminism, for example)—some I grew up believing were wrong or misguided but, upon careful examination, decided they lined up with the teachings of Jesus better than some of the things I was taught.

In my work, I had the privilege of helping Christian young adults (re)consider what it means to love, respect, and relate as Jesus did to diverse people—especially those whom others dislike or reject. At one point, I had a student tell me that she was questioning her sexual orientation. I told her that I thought homosexual behavior of any kind was wrong according to the Bible, but that I would support her and walk alongside her regardless of the outcome of her quest.

Thus began my own search to explore and understand the views of Christians who believe differently (than the traditional, conservative, judgmental, “evangelical” viewpoint that I absorbed through my upbringing) about what God has to say on the issue of homosexuality. As a result of this journey, I had to reconsider my former, unexamined views after coming across some very thought-provoking, spirit-convicting ideas from other followers of Christ. I underwent a significant transformation in my heart and mind as a result of my efforts to explore and understand the views of affirming, welcoming Christians.

This web site lists the collection of things I found in my search. I began keeping this list for myself and for my student, and I continue to add to it regularly. I share it here because I realize there are no doubt others who are searching for hope and wondering—like my student—whether someone who is gay is destined to go straight to Hell; others who are wondering whether they have to choose between being a Christian and being gay; and those who would like to know how we, as Christians, can relate in a Christ-like loving manner to those who are gay.

There is not just one viewpoint on these complex questions, even among born-again Bible-adhering scholars who are committed to following Jesus Christ and His teachings. The issues are far from clear cut and require thorough examination.  For those—like me—who have known nothing but condemning, negative responses from Christians, it is important to know that there is more than one viewpoint out there. 

As Christians, we will not all reach the same conclusions on an issue such as homosexuality (see The Great Debate), but it is my prayer that we can all agree on these essential truths that frame our faith:
          The Bible proclaims that God is love. He hates no one. He asks no one to change in order to be loved. And it is not for anyone but God to judge others. As a follower of God’s Son Jesus, I am asked to show His unconditional love to every one of my neighbors—especially the outcasts, those despised by society, the marginalized, the “least” and the unlovely, even the haters—because we are all made in God's image and each of us is precious to Him. Jesus said I am to treat others as I want them to treat me. Whenever I do something kind and loving for those who are overlooked or neglected by others, it is as if I am doing it for Jesus Himself. Jesus summed up all of Scripture by commanding me to love God and to love others.
          May we each be faithful to walk humbly with God, show mercy, and seek justice as we strive to live out our high calling—no matter which side of these issues we come out on.


» For those who are LGBTQ+ » For those who are Straight

Sexual Orientation: It's Not A Sin!

I'm Not Trying to Change My Gay Friends
Confession from a Christian


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  1. Letter to Gays & Lesbians (GLBT): I Stand With You

  2. A House Divided

  3. The Church with "a rainbow flag sticker on their sign"

  4. Gay Condemning Christians and their House of Mirrors

  5. How My Mind Has Changed by Rev. Gil Caldwell (retired United Methodist Minister) 

  6. Coming Out as an Evangelical Supporter of Gay Rights by Rev. Dr. Mark Achtemeier

  7. Jesus' Missing Words on Homosexuality by Richard Brand (Presbyterian Minister)

  8. Top Ten Questions about God, Jesus, the Bible, and Gay Pride by Rev. Susan Russell (Episcopal priest)

  9. What the Bible Says and Doesn’t Say about Homosexuality by Rev. Dr. Mel White of Soulforce

  10. Homosexuality and Christianity by Rev. Michael S. Piazza (United Church of Christ pastor)

  11. Biblical Perspectives on Homosexuality by Walter Wink, Th.D.

  12. The Bible and Homosexuality: Romans 1

  13. How can you think Homosexuality is Biblically Sound?

  14. Seeing with New Eyes: Evangelical & Affirming Covenant Homosexuality

  15. A Mountain I'm Willing to Die On

  16. Silence = Death 

  17. Changing Minds: A Young Seminarian Learning to Love  

  18. Let's Not "Agree to Disagree"

  19. I'm An Evangelical Christian and I Think Same-Sex Marriage Should Be Legal

  20. Abomination (n.) Do you know what it means?

  21. The Ten Lies about the GLBT Community Told by Conservative Hate Groups: A Straight Christian Perspective

  22. "Traditional Family Values" -- Which Traditions? Whose Families? What Values?

  23. Homosexuality is not a sin! 

  24. Excuse Me, Who Is Obsessed with My Sexuality?

  25. Six Things Straight People Should Stop Saying About Gay People

  26. Posts that Shake the World: I’m Christian Unless You’re Gay includes links to numerous responses to the original post, which can be found at

  27. How "hate the sin and love the sinner" led me to quit "hating the sin and loving the sinner"

  28. Retiring "Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin"

  29. The Best Case for the Bible NOT Condemning Homosexuality

  30. How My Church Tried to Make Me Hate Gay People

  31. This is a POWERFUL (yet brief) post addressing "the gay community" and how we, as believers, ought to relate to them.

  32. "Gay Christian Dialogue" Raises Questions: What if the Christian Church threw open its doors to all people, asking only that they be faithful to the call of Christ in their lives?

  33. The Clobber Passages  Here is a great study of the so-called “clobber” verses in Scripture—the ones used to bolster the belief that the Bible condemns homosexuality. 

  34. Why Being Gay Isn’t Against the Bible

  35. Modern Marriage is not Biblical

  36. An Open Letter to Jim Daly, President of Focus on the Family, from a Gay Evangelical

  37. Straight Christian Pride

  38. Why are some Christians so obsessed with homosexuality?

  39. Ask A Gay Christian

  40. Ask A Gay Christian ... Response

  41. Ask A Transgender Christian

  42. Ask A Transgender Christian ... Response

  43. Lana Wachowski, transgender and other stories we need to hear

  44. Sexual Identity: The Cass Model adapted to include additional factors for religious conservatives 

  45. Becoming Christian Allies for the Gay Community

  46. When Jesus Healed a Same-Sex Partner 

  47. The New Testament: Uninterested in Homosexuality?

  48. The Bible mentions homosexuality 12 times. (Jesus mentions it 0 times.)

  49. The Homosexuality Question, Answered: Not a Sin

  50. An Evangelical Support for Same-Sex Marriage

  51. Christians can change their minds on homosexuality

  52. Five Phrases Christians Shouldn't Say

#4: "I love the sinner but hate the sin."


See, the problem that I have with this phrase is that it assumes that “sin” is a specific action that is done/can be undone.  If that’s the case, name the specific action that you hate.

“I love you, Tommy, but I don’t like it when you break my glasses.”  “I love you, Sarah, but I don’t like it when you kick my shins.”

But really, I haven’t heard this phrase used in those ways.  I’ve only heard it used when people are talking about identity.

“I love gay people, I just hate that they act on their homosexual orientation…”

There we go.  There’s an honest statement.

And an unhelpful one.

It’s unhelpful because, you can’t love me apart from my sexuality.  I really don’t think you can.  It’s part of what makes me who I am, even if it’s not the whole of my definition.  So, if you were to say to me, “I love you, but I hate that you’re heterosexual…” I would probably stop listening right then and there because, well, I wouldn’t believe you.

You can’t love me and yet hate an essential part of me.  This phrase is disingenuous.


  1. Jesus Loves Me. This I Know . . . Even If I'm Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgender
  2. The Gospel according to Lady Gaga 

Who will protect the little monsters (gay kids)? Who will speak out for them? Who will welcome them? Who will weep for them?

I know Lady Gaga will.

What about the church?

  1. What Jesus had to say about homosexuality
  1. A pastor’s response to other pastors

Here’s an excerpt:

I’ve always found that Jesus cared more about the person, than the person’s sin. When I hear a Christian ranting about a behavior, it leads me to believe that their faith in God’s ability is lacking. Jesus never let the issue outweigh the person. He spoke against the tendency to fall into this trap:

“Judge not, that you may not be judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will also be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when here is the log in your own eye?”  Matthew 7:1-4

I’m going to end this with two quotes from two pastors with whom I’ve served and respect very much:

     “Everyone knows what Christians are against. Why don’t we tell them what we are for?”  ~Mark Wingler (Journey Church)

     “We need to tell people that God is for them.”  ~Tony Portell (Life Church Indy)

  1. Obedient Slaves, Silent Women, and Understanding Biblical Literalism  A nice, short piece on the selectivity of literal interpretations of Scripture among Christians

  2. Is the Black church guilty of spiritual hypocrisy?

  3. United Methodist bishop affirms loving, committed same-sex relationships

  4. I am a Lesbian and a Christian: An Open Letter to the Southern Baptist Convention

  5. How to Win a Culture War and Lose a Generation

  6. Why I'm a Straight Christian Fighting for Gay Rights

  7. Restrict Marriage & Go Spit in their Faces

  8. I Hugged a Man in His Underwear. And I Am Proud.  (A story that went viral) 
    Original story:  



Personal Stories—Non-fiction

Personal Stories—Fiction

This is an excellent (award-winning) novel about a Christian woman coming to terms with her brother’s homosexuality. One Amazon reviewer wrote: "Christian readers will appreciate Allen's sensitive handling of the subject matter, and consider for themselves the balance between love and grace and God's truth. Regardless of one's view of homosexuality, this novel is a recommended read to spark thoughtful discussion as we consider our own response to those who identify as David does."

 Analysis of the Issues & Scripture





Brent writes:  For those who desire to walk with their LGBT friends and family but don’t know how to make themselves known as available and ready to listen, I describe the qualities I’d look for if I were a closeted gay person seeking safe people. I write this because I’ve talked to closeted LGBT people who feel completely alone at Christian schools, and I’ve also talked to Christians who want to support LGBT individuals but don’t know how to advertise themselves as such, and it breaks my heart to think of the beautiful opportunities we’re missing for connection and sharing between those people.

First "zine" (Online magazine, 77 pages long)

The Movement

We are not the first group of students and/or alumni of a Christian school to create new conversations about faith and sexuality in our communities, and we will not be the last. See "The Movement" page for examples of what’s going on at other Christian colleges and universities.



What's Happening on Various Christian College Campuses (listed alphabetically)





 Matthew Vines' message (1:07:19)





FULL-LENGTH DVDs you can purchase

Description from Winner of the Audience Award for Best Documentary at the Seattle International Film Festival, Dan Karslake's provocative, entertaining documentary brilliantly reconciles homosexuality and Biblical scripture, and in the process reveals that Church-sanctioned anti-gay bias is based solely upon a significant (and often malicious) misinterpretation of the Bible. As the film notes, most Christians live their lives today without feeling obliged to kill anyone who works on the Sabbath or eats shrimp.

Through the experience of five very normal, very Christian, very American families—including those of former House Majority Leader Richard Gephardt and Episcopalian Bishop Gene Robinson—we discover how insightful people of faith handle the realization of having a gay child. With commentary by such respected voices as Bishop Desmond Tutu, Harvard's Peter Gomes, Orthodox Rabbi Steve Greenberg and Reverend Jimmy Creech, For The Bible Tells Me So offers healing, clarity and understanding to anyone caught in the crosshairs of scripture and sexual identity.

The church is at war over homosexuality. Will our youth be the casualties?
Through My Eyes provides an unflinchingly honest look at the role of today's young Christians in the gay debate: what they really think, how they perceive the church, and what they wish other Christians knew. Over two dozen young Christians agreed to share their private feelings, struggles, and experiences on camera. All of them have a personal stake in the debate. And all of them hoped that their stories might make a difference. Created for Christians by Christians, Through My Eyes tackles one of the most controversial topics today with compassion and sensitivity, shining new light on the debate for people on both sides. It's unlike anything you've seen before.
It's a powerful, eye-opening experience you won't soon forget.

According to a recent study, only 16% of Evangelicals who are aged 35 or older have a close friend or relative who is gay. Meanwhile, younger evangelicals are twice as likely to know gay people personally. Whatever your age and theological opinion on homosexuality, you'll benefit greatly from watching Bridging the Gap. I and several of my friends appear in the DVD, along with six gay Christians ... all in hopes of helping our fellow Christians better share the love of Christ with gay men and women ... who (whether we know it yet or not) are our relatives, neighbors, friends, and coworkers. There's so much hot rhetoric and cold treatment when it comes to this sensitive subject; this DVD will bring needed light and warmth.    ~Brian McLaren, author/speaker/activist

Much of today's culture defines bridge-building and reconciliation as a one-way street that leads to full theological, political and social agreement. Yet Christ demonstrated a different path of religious and cultural engagement to establish his kingdom here on earth. In light of such countercultural principles, the Christian community needs a new view on the issues that divide conservative believers and the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) communities. Using the practical applications Andrew Marin has learned over the last decade of living and working in the LGBT neighborhood of Chicago called Boystown, as well as his international speaking and consulting ministry, this six-session, video-based study offers a variety of practical teachings, insights and life lessons. Rather than avoiding the topic of homosexuality, Love Is an Orientation aims to equip the Christian community to bridge the gap between LGBT and religious communities. This is not a group study about 'fixing' gay people. It's about getting to know them, engaging them, and loving them like Jesus does. After this study, you, your small group and your church will know what it means to peacefully and productively build bridges with the LGBT community.

BRIEF VIDEOS you can view online







  1. Key LGBT Resources for Christians  The conversation of Christianity and homosexuality is deepening beyond the culture wars. Check out these resources to develop your understanding.  

  2. Gay Christian Network  is an online community of over 20,000 LGBT Christians and their allies worldwide.

GCN is a nonprofit ministry supporting Christians worldwide who happen to be lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender. Their website contains numerous resources including (but not limited to):

When it comes to gay Christians, there's one question that causes more debate than any other:  Does God bless gay relationships ("Side A")?  Or are gay Christians called to lifelong celibacy ("Side B")?
GCN has members on both sides of this "great debate" and some who just aren't sure. But how is it possible for Christians with such differing views to live together in community?  Find out here:
  1. Believe Out Loud is an online network that empowers Christians to work for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender equality (also on Facebook).

Check out these videos!  Hear from members of the welcoming community in their own words. From clergy on transforming their churches into welcoming environments to congregants reaching out to LGBT individuals, these stories illuminate and inspire.

  1. Canyonwalker Connections:  Its mission is to educate and create dialogue between the Christian Church and the GLBT Christian community.  

Kathy Baldock - Rewind from Recycle Your Faith on Vimeo. Kathy is a straight Evangelical Christian, who used to believe there would not be any gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people in heaven. Now she knows differently, and she ministers as an advocate to the glbt for equality and inclusion in Christian churches.

  1. Str8apology Action  DON'T MISS THIS extremely powerful story about Kathy Baldock's outreach at gay pride events: 
  1. Reconciling Ministries Network  Mobilizing United Methodists to create full inclusion of all God’s children regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity since 1982

    The Reconciling Ministries Network (RMN) is a growing movement of United Methodist individuals, congregations, campus ministries, and other groups working for the full participation of all people in The United Methodist Church.

    SEE ALSO THIS RELATED ARTICLE:  The United Methodist Church and Homosexuality - An Overview

  2. Reconciling Journey Ministries  Affirming GLBT Christians and seekers in their daily walk

  3. Heartstrong, Inc.  Hope & help for gay, lesbian, bisexual & transgender students from religious educational institutions

  4. 12 Steps to Becoming an LGBT Ally in 2013

  5. Discussing LGBTQ People: 8 Mistakes You Might Be Making

  6. A Resource Guide to Christianity and Homosexuality

  7. Inside Out Faith  Equality for LGBT People of Faith!

  8. IMPACT Magazine:  Bold. Authentic. Engaged. The magazine where Faith, the Real World & Gay Life intersect! covers faith, culture and real life from a gay and progressive faith perspective.

  9. Coming Out ChristianConversations about being Christian and gay in America

  10. Soulforce is committed to freedom for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer people from religious and political oppression through relentless nonviolent resistance.

  11. Gay People Go to Heaven  A Truth Movement

  12. Gay Christian 101: Giving voice to conservative gay evangelicals
  13. Would Jesus Discriminate?

    As the material on this web site makes clear, there are ways to read the Bible -- spiritually, intellectually sound ways -- that are gay-affirming. You can hold to an anti-gay interpretation, but that is your choice. The Scriptures do not compel it.   Examine the evidence here.  Much of the information on this web site is from the book, The Children Are Free: Reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-sex Relationships. If you’d like a copy of that book for your own study, you can order it from Amazon, or directly from the publisher.

  14. Whosoever  An online magazine for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Christians
  15. Christian Gays  Christian Gays is a community for ALL, including LGGBTTIQQEU2AA (Lesbian, Gay, Genderqueer, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, Intersex, Queer, Questioning, Eunuch, Undecided, 2-Spirited, Asexual, and Allied), and while we are absolutely Christian-based, we also believe strongly in Christ's acceptance and support of all, so you will find information and support here for faiths other than Christianity.
  16. To Educate About the Consequences of Homophobia (T.E.A.C.H.) Ministries   

    Mary Lou Wallner lost her lesbian Christian daughter to suicide in February of 1997.  Being raised in a fundamentalist, legalistic church environment, Mary Lou was taught the untruth that homosexuality is a sin. Her journey from "tragedy to transformation" is nothing short of amazing. She and her husband, Bob, are strong allies for Gays, Lesbians, Bisexual and Transgender people. They have a sincere desire to see the church accept and welcome GLBT people just the way God made them.

  17. Love is an Orientation: Counterculture. Faith. Love.
  18. The Marin Foundation works to build bridges between the LGBT community and the Church through scientific research, biblical and social education, and diverse community gatherings.

  19. Odd Man Out  A blog about being Christian and gay

  20. It Seems To Me  Many good posts by Nathan, a pastor in the Evangelical Covenant Church, previously affiliated with North Park University and The Marin Foundation
  21. Coming Out Covenant: Members and friends of the Evangelical Covenant Church in favor of a more inclusive church!
    1. Our Story by Eva Sullivan-Knoff

    2. To My Church: John Knoff’s Poem
    3. Paradox by Benj Sullivan-Knoff
  22. The Huffington Post  Articles tagged "Gay Christian" 
  23. Religious Institute  Faithful voices on sexuality and religion
  24. Dignity USA  Celebrating the wholeness and holiness of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Catholics
  25. LGBT Religious And Spiritual Organizations, National And International
  26.  The largest gay affirming church directory in the world  
  27. Metropolitan Community Churches  In 1968, a year before New York’s Stonewall Riots, a series of most unlikely events in Southern California resulted in the birth of the world’s first church group with a primary, positive ministry to gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgender persons.  For more about this international Protestant Christian denomination, visit
  28. Straight for Equality in Faith Communities - Resources   Straight For Equality is a neat little project of PFLAG National (see below)

  29. PFLAG has a resource page with links to over a dozen Welcoming Religious & Spiritual Groups